Everyone wants to meet «the one and only» but sometimes something goes wrong: people face that life can be just life, shit happens and its name is «casual sex». To tell the truth, this kind of action has been and will be irrespective of time, fashion, cultures and so on. Well, there are people who are interested in this theme and find the normalization of casual sex among youth. One of the brightest example is Dr. Zhana Vrangalova with her The Casual Sex Project. Let`s try to understand what the purpose is.

Sex for a night or an unreally dirty orgy are the same in one aspect — just casual. Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, a sex researcher and NYU instructor, has created The Casual Sex Project and believes in its importance. First of all, it`s necessary to explain how the project works: anyone can share stories of their «fast-food» sex on the website «regardless of age, gender, race/ethnicity, sexual orientation, gender identity, religious affiliation.»

The Casual Sex Project. Dr. Zhana Vrangalova

The Casual Sex Project. Dr. Zhana Vrangalova

Why has Dr. Vrangalova launched The Casual Sex Project? «Casual sex seems to play a role in many people’s lives and there is so much talk of the hookup culture, yet we have very little first-person information about what that entails for a variety of people. I am fascinated by the fact that we as a society have a priori decided that sex is only acceptable and healthy if it’s within the confines of a long-term relationship; that if it’s done purely for fun and pleasure it’s somehow a bad thing,» she says, according Salon. «So I wanted to create a communal space that is anonymous, nonjudgmental and welcoming of everyone with a hookup story where the good, the bad and the mediocre can all come out. Given my experience with researching casual sex, I also wanted to make that space somewhat structured, by having people answering a specific set of questions, rather then let it be completely free-form. I feel that makes it easier for people to write their stories and easier for people to read others’ stories — they get a consistent set of information about each hookup.»

So, what wonderful or mind-blowing things can you learn about «casual sex?» «That there is an incredible diversity of hookup experiences in terms of what counts as casual sex — from one-night stands, to sex with an ex, to paid sex, online sex — the quality of the experience — from that hookup being the best sex they’ve ever had to it being the worst sex they’ve ever had — the transformative power of the hookup — from opening their minds and bodies to enjoying sex more freely to making it painfully clear to them that sex without love is not for them. Some people have only had one single hookup and they remember it 20 years later, others hook up on a regular basis; some cheat on their partners, others have group sex sanctioned by or together with their partners. The variety is really astonishing.»

The Casual Sex Project. Dr. Zhana Vrangalova

The Casual Sex Project. Dr. Zhana Vrangalova

That shows how lots of people are opening easily under the anonymous mask and may feel shame or strange inside but in everyday life they are becoming like animals by leaps and bounds. Surely, despite your sex experience or relation to The Casual Sex Project you should read about it and understand that it is. Moreover, it is one of the verges of normality in our society. To sum up, you can simple share your story trying to save yourself from your mind but you always have a perfect way: firstly, think; secondly, do – this method can guarantee a clean conscience no matter what you decide.

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